I’ll know more than I ever wanted to later, but for now it is enough to say that much of my attention turns to the unwelcome visitor and days ahead that are even less in my control than usual. I’m a bit in reactive mode just now, but God willing will turn more proactive as possibilities for treatment emerge.
Cancer is not another name for death, but I am aware that cancer often deadens the life force. So my most proactive work right now is (i) to pay attention to the work Kathryn and family and I, and lots of health care people, have to do dealing with the cancer(s) and (ii) to pay attention to living creatively and with imagination.
It also means that in this next period I will need to focus on these things and not others. So I will be resigning from a variety of civic and religious committees and stepping back a bit from the busyness of life. But conversely I will hopefully step forward with at least some grace into those dangerous areas where body and spirit are tested.
So, I’m dealing. Kathryn’s dealing.
What I need from friends is your dealing too. We will no doubt need help dealing with life not in control. I know I will need friendship and love. I will mostly need compassion.
What I don’t need is too many questions, too many assumptions, too many solutions. Dealing is not rescue. Dealing is not avoiding death (which is really bad theology.) Dealing is a sacred walk. It is an example of the journey being the destination, which is about God NOW.
So…pray with me for a good walk, perhaps walking away from the unwelcome visitor, perhaps walking with it, but a good walk none the less, in which holiness and loving kindness is present. I’ll pray for you too. After all, we’re all dealing.
I pray for the "good walk" Amen, LenReplyDelete
Love and prayers as you and Kathryn walk the path with your unwelcome visitor. God be with you.ReplyDelete
Mark, I will certainly add you to the list of those whom I hold daily in my prayers as I continue to walk the Camimo. As you begin your own new "walk" I to the unknown that lies ahead, I offer you what those whom I encounter several times daily offer me: Buen Camimo.ReplyDelete
Blessings and prayers, my friend.ReplyDelete
prayers that your walking be holy and extraordinaryReplyDelete
I've been on this walk with several people. You're not alone even though it may feel that way sometimes. Just remember the Father is walking with you. Blessings and peace be with you.ReplyDelete
Prayers for your walk, and prayers for Kathryn as she does this work with you and with your doctors. May God send you both abundant grace, joyful moments, and that peace which surpasses all understanding. Blessings - Joan TestinReplyDelete
I am grateful for fellowship with you and Kathryn. I walk with you both in God's love.ReplyDelete
Prayers for your walk in an unexpected direction. You have strong support from family and those who know and love you. You have God in your corner. And, I'm pretty sure, you have the grace to care for yourself and ask for support when you need it. It can be a very deep (and surprisingly spiritual) trip. Blessings to you and yours.ReplyDelete
Thoughts and prayersReplyDelete
I am praying for a good walk tooReplyDelete
Sending my best wishes now, remembering some encounters within the Anglican sphere and following your worthwhile commentaries. Adrian.ReplyDelete
Mark, sorry to hear this, it seems to becoming more of a regular conversation than any of us would choose. I know you are a man of faith, but I know you are a creative individual as well, I have a book I would like to share with you that has a great deal of current information on dealing with cancer in alternative but very natural ways.ReplyDelete
praying for you and Kathryn, today and tomorrow and each day afterReplyDelete
Prayers for good treatment and therapy, and skill to your caregivers....ReplyDelete
Mark, I am sorry to hear this news but glad you are approaching it with hope and determination. You'll be in my prayers.ReplyDelete
Dear Mark, You continually move me with your wisdom. Bob Dylan wrote a tune: "I'll be with you when the deal goes down". I remember those good and fun times at ETS with you and Bill Wood. You are a dear and loving child of God. Blessings to you and Kathryn and all your family and close friends. Bob StuhlmannReplyDelete
Praying for a good walk for you! My husband has been on his for 3 years. It's hard.ReplyDelete
Our love and prayers for both of you on this walk. Bob and Delores WardwellReplyDelete
Mark, I hold you and Kathryn in prayer as you begin this sacred journey. May God Bless you with the "good walk" and give you the gifts that He knows you need.ReplyDelete
~ Your Friend In Christ, Shirley
Charlie and I will pray for you, as will our whole congregation. May you flourish.ReplyDelete
Oh, Mark... all I can say is that I love you. Of course I will pray for you. For right now, that is all I need to say, no?ReplyDelete
Prayers and love, love and prayers, dear Mark. You've been walking faithfully beside all of us who follow your blog. I hope you will now sense our steps beside you, in solidarity, as we each put one foot in front of the other on our journey, which is always a journey home.ReplyDelete
Our prayers will accompany your walk. God blessReplyDelete
Thoughts and prayers across the miles as you begin this journey, dear friend and colleague. And thank you for such honest sharing with us. You are a gift to me and many. Aloha - Brian GrievesReplyDelete
My only interaction with you, Mark, has been as a faithful reader of this blog (and other internet venues). What I know from that is that you have accompanied so many on walks where the path was not known, the destination unclear. Now we companion you and Kathryn in prayer, on just such a walk. We are near.ReplyDelete
You were so supportive of us way back in the 70s. We will always be grateful to you and Kathryn for that. Our prayers are with you both.ReplyDelete
You are in my thoughts and prayers of course. Having been there and gone through that I am very familiar with the trepidations. Much love Br Maurice BSGReplyDelete
My prayers from down underReplyDelete
We're all with you, I hope you know that.ReplyDelete
Dear Mark and Kathryn,ReplyDelete
I join my prayers with those of your friends as we create a great circle of love and compassion around you.
By coincidence [perhaps] I have authored this month's Vintage Voice of the Church Pension Group. We have only been together on a couple of occasions in the journey, but I have always welcomed your commentaries and periodically have responded to them.
Bottom line: you are handling this exactly the right way - family first and foremost, friends and church acquaintances second. My 6 month prognosis July 2015 has evolved into a 14 month journey since thus far, and I am both blessed and grateful that I have been shown how to reshape retirement ministry into the benefit of others and myself, especially our clergy colleagues namely, modeling what we believe in the flesh.
It has been a blessing for me to be ministered to by my oncology specialists, who find my situation quite inexplicable. I am terminal and inoperable but my most recent diagnostics in August reveal that the expected increased pace of my tumor [metastatic liver which has invaded the lungs and threatens the heart]has dramatically dropped from 200+ - not unexpected, having been 20 at the diagnosis - to 19 this past month.
You are and will find the special power of prayer and support during this time - from friends, former parishioners and folk of many traditions.
Blessings on your new challenges and redirecting of ministry.
My prayers, Mark.ReplyDelete
Prayers, Estimable Colleague. From one who has watched and waited with more than my share: prayers and blessings.ReplyDelete
I join my voice to pray with all your friends for you on this walk. May you be sustained by the knowledge that you are loved much, by many!
I am putting you and Kathryn on my prayer list. When I was diagnosed, a friend said welcome to the club no one wants to join. Your writings and the sermons I was priv1leged to hear you deliver at St Thomas's in Newark years ago have meant a lot to me. Thank you.
Love and prayers, Mark.ReplyDelete
Prayers ascending from the High Sierra! (on vacation, late to this)ReplyDelete
We're with you, Mark. Stay strong---
We pray for your healing, Kathryn's and your strength, and the comfort of knowing that God loves us all the time.ReplyDelete
Elinor, Peter, Elinor and Steven
Please, Mark, let us know - as you are able - how things are going. I know I'm not a nice person, nor a close friend, but I am concerned.ReplyDelete
Holding you in prayer, Mark. Let us know how LIFE (and not just the friggin' cancer) is going, if you can. Shalom/Namaste/Inshallah/In Jesus' Name...ReplyDelete
God bless and keep you Fr Mark, and through the grace of His Holy Spirit grant you healing, wise medical help, constant awareness of His presence and support for you and your family always in accordance with His Will, in Jesus' name. Amen.ReplyDelete
Peter [aka Pageantmaster]
Hi Mark, I haven't commented on blogs for a while, but please know that you and your family are in my prayers.ReplyDelete
Some day we'll really know why our bodies can turn on us this way. Until the - blessings on all who are trying to solve the mystery.
God be with you.